First birthday countdown and no party plans

How is it possible that an event planner by day is without birthday plans for her daughter's first birthday? I want to get this party just right, but I don't want to go overboard. How do I "keep it small" without leaving someone out? For Izzy's baptism we invited 80 people! And I don't know that we could have invited less. We stuck to our aunts, uncles and cousins (Izzy's great aunts/uncles) and our very close friends. Among those left off the list were work friends and Izzy's daycare provider.
Now it's time to celebrate her 1st birthday and I really don't know where to draw the line.
If I do a small party at home, we'll end up with roughly 30 people. If I invite aunts and uncles, we'll end up around 80 again and at a hall of some sort. We might be able to afford a party like that, but I don't know that I have the time to plan a proper celebration for 80. (I'm seriously starting to worry about how much this kid's wedding is going to cost.)
So back to having the party at home. Here are some ideas I've been mulling over:

• Apple/harvest theme: clean out the garage and open it up for activities like pumpkin decorating, and bobbing for apples


• Send the dogs to camp so we don't have to worry about Willow eating the cake


• Making the cake myself to save money and make it more personal (God bless anyone who dares to try my baking)


• Tailgating theme: outdoor cooking and set up outdoor furniture, really kind of tricky for Oct. 30, but it has some potential. Just not very kid like

As you can tell, I'm really in the brainstorming stage. I should whipped through this stage 2 months ago and should have a concrete action plan now. Not good. Here's to hoping I can come up with something by this weekend.